Trusting in a relationship is an important aspect, yet is something that comes up a lot in relationships and can cause a lot of difficulties when there doesn’t feel there is trust.

Here are some ways to think about trust and ways of trusting someone :

  • Reliability

– Do you /they keep their promises – ‘actions speak louder than words’

  • Predictability

– Do you / they generally do what they say they will

– Do you / they generally remember to do something on a regular basis

  • Honesty

– Do you / they answer or avoid questions

РDo you / they lie to get out of difficult situations 

– Are lies part of the relationship

  • Loyalty

 РAre you / they generally supportive

¬†– Are you / they generally ‘in the others corner’

  • Commitment

– Are either of you vague about what you want / expect in the future

– Do both of you ‘stick’ through the mundane up and downs of life

– Do you both have a vision of a future together

  • Shared Boundaries

– What do you agree are the most important things to maintain in the relationship

– How similar are your ideas and attitudes to sex, finance, children, work, home life

– What do you both believe about being faithful

– What ideas do yo share about how to celebrate birthdays, anniversaries, high days

– What are your attitudes to contact with close and extended family members