New Year a New You !

Posted by on January 2, 2015

New Year can be a time to reflect on the past year or even issues going further back that have never been resolved and are holding you back from being the person you want to be.

Relationships sometimes like everything could do with an MOT just to keep things on track, maybe communication could be a bit better or perhaps your sex life isn’t what it was once and you want it to be part of your relationship once more.

Often we can get bogged down with the demands of day to day life, being a parent, work pressues and just trying - Read More

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Is Christmas & New Year a stressful time of year for you ?

Posted by on December 5, 2014

Christmas & New Year can be a time of happiness and getting together with family etc, but it can also be a stressful time of year for a lot of people, relationships can feel strained, pressures of family etc, social anxieties of having to go to a work Christmas due or perhaps a New Years eve party, but you aren’t sure whether you can face being sociable perhaps because of low self esteem or lack of confidence. It a time when we are almost expected to ‘have fun’ but it is not always easy and can feel quite pressured to - Read More

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Habits of making a strong relationship

Posted by on October 29, 2014

An interesting article on the habits of couples who are in good relationships.

 

http://www.bustle.com/articles/45366-10-habits-of-couples-in-strong-and-healthy-relationships

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Feeling low – Here’s some helpful Tips

Posted by on October 28, 2014

“The secret of joy is the mastery of pain.” ~ Anais Nin
We can all feel low at times and find things difficult or lack motivation, enthusiasm to do things – here are some helpful suggestions of different things we can try to change how we are feeling to improve our mood.

If you are feeling low then give some of these things a go to see if they can help.
1. Step back and self-reflect. Whenever I start feeling depressed, I try to stop, reflect, and get to the root of my feelings.
2. Reach out to someone. I used - Read More

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Are you really listening ?

Posted by on April 24, 2014

We all like to think we are great listeners, but are we? research shows that actually we are generally quite poor at just listening, whether it’s because we feel criticised, feel we need to get our point across first or we are distracted by the television or more focused on our own thoughts these are all things which affect how effectively we listen.

Here is a few things to consider and see how good a listener you really are and are there things that you could be doing differently to improve your listening.
Are You Really Listening ?
Do I always - Read More

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Tips on Negotiating

Posted by on March 29, 2014

An important area and one that some of us can really struggle with in getting it right whether it’s at work, with our partners, friends, family and our young people. This weeks blogs is looking as some things to consider and to identify whether you are someone who is a good negotiator or could be better at it!

A relationship takes compromise on both sides and how we go about negotiating our own position and to get an outcome that doesn’t leave the other person feel like they have lost or had to coincide can be really helpful.

Are you a Hard - Read More

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Tips for Good Communication

Posted by on March 18, 2014

Tips for Good Communication
 

Communication, communication, communication – how often do we hear that communication has broken down or we don’t communicate how we used to – what leads us to this and how do we get from talking and resolving differences to a position where even simple things seem to turn into a battle.

We all know that we should listen more than perhaps we do and it is quite usual for us to all think we are good listeners, but are we…worth thinking about isn’t it. Do we actually stop and listen to what the other person is saying - Read More

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6 Ways to think about trust!

Posted by on March 7, 2014

Trusting in a relationship is an important aspect, yet is something that comes up a lot in relationships and can cause a lot of difficulties when there doesn’t feel there is trust.

Here are some ways to think about trust and ways of trusting someone :

Reliability

– Do you /they keep their promises – ‘actions speak louder than words’

Predictability

– Do you / they generally do what they say they will
– Do you / they generally remember to do something on a regular basis

Honesty

– Do you / they answer or avoid questions
– Do you / they lie to get out - Read More

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Listen

Posted by on February 22, 2014

When I ask you to listen to me

and you start giving advice

you have not done what I asked.

 

When I ask you to listen to me

and you begin to tell me why I shouldn’t feel that way

you are trampling on my feelings.

 

When I ask you to listen to me

and you feel you have to do something to solve my problems

you have failed me, strange as that may seem.

 

Listen! All I asked, was that you listen

not to talk or do – just hear me.

 

When you do something for me that I can and need to do

for myself, you contribute to my fear - Read More

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10 Tips for a good row!

Posted by on February 13, 2014

Arguing and disagreements however solid a relationship, will happen from time to time, and it’s not so much about we shouldn’t have arguments, but more of when we do, how we resolve them in a good way which is important.

There is no doubt that there is a collation about how a couple argue and how these are resolved, which help maintain a healthy relationship. Some things to think about next time you are in an argument:

 
• Choosing the best time and place – not having difficult or emotionally charged conversations if one of you is tired for example. Out - Read More

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