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New Year a New You !

New Year can be a time to reflect on the past year or even issues going further back that have never been resolved and are holding you back from being the person you want to be.

Relationships sometimes like everything could do with an MOT just to keep things on track, maybe communication could be a bit better or perhaps your sex life isn’t what it was once and you want it to be part of your relationship once more.

Often we can get bogged down with the demands of day to day life, being a parent, work pressues and just trying to manage the day to day things and the relationship has got pushed down the priority list.

Or perhaps, depression, anxiety, low self esteem etc have held you back for to long now and you want to make changes to feeling more positive about who you are and to enjoy life again.

If you are young person and the worry of your GCSE’s are getting to much, things just feeling a little to overwhelming and you can’t talk to your parents and you are feeling alone with these feelings then talking to a neutral third party can help you.

Well it maybe time to address these issues and start the new year as you mean to go on, things from the past can hold us from moving forward and feeling positive about the future, if you are in need of some help and support then please get in touch.

 

 

6 Ways to think about trust!

Trusting in a relationship is an important aspect, yet is something that comes up a lot in relationships and can cause a lot of difficulties when there doesn’t feel there is trust.

Here are some ways to think about trust and ways of trusting someone :

  • Reliability

– Do you /they keep their promises – ‘actions speak louder than words’

  • Predictability

– Do you / they generally do what they say they will

– Do you / they generally remember to do something on a regular basis

  • Honesty

– Do you / they answer or avoid questions

РDo you / they lie to get out of difficult situations 

– Are lies part of the relationship

  • Loyalty

 РAre you / they generally supportive

¬†– Are you / they generally ‘in the others corner’

  • Commitment

– Are either of you vague about what you want / expect in the future

– Do both of you ‘stick’ through the mundane up and downs of life

– Do you both have a vision of a future together

  • Shared Boundaries

– What do you agree are the most important things to maintain in the relationship

– How similar are your ideas and attitudes to sex, finance, children, work, home life

– What do you both believe about being faithful

– What ideas do yo share about how to celebrate birthdays, anniversaries, high days

– What are your attitudes to contact with close and extended family members

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